The Relationship Centre for Couple Counselling & Coaching.
A place for Couples
Therapy for the UK and International worldwide locations
For information or to book, call us on 07901522692 or 07748612733 (we may be with clients so please do leave a message)
Or email aplaceforcouples@gmail.com
If you want to text, please include your email address so we can email you the reply.
The Relationship Centre is for any couple who are looking for a better relationship, whether it’s to improve on a good relationship to make it a wonderful one, or if it’s a relationship in crisis that needs help. We specialise in working with Affairs, and were originally based in Harley Street, central London and we are now home based at Hythe on the edge of the New Forest in Hampshire, although much of therapy is with people away from the area or abroad. We work around all areas of relationships and do see some couples Face-to-Face locally from Hythe, Southampton, Winchester, Lymington etc if available, and also remotely for couples from around the UK and worldwide. Most people think of couple counselling as being a last resort when things are really bad, and a crisis point has been reached. This doesn’t have to be the case. Many relationships benefit in a big way by using couple counselling as a way of sorting out minor issues in the relationship before they grow into resentment and arguments. Sometimes couple counselling can be used to help a relationship end in a positive way, so any anger or resentment is left in the counselling room, and not taken into their new life as separate people.
Once we have booked an appointment time for you, we send you a confirmation and an assessment form, which you fill out individually and return to us. This gives you a chance to tell your story and gives us some background and saves time in the first session. You then have the first session jointly and from this, the sessions will continue. It may be that both of you have an individual session to help the process, and after 6 sessions, a review can be made on the progress and what is needed from that point. We use the Gottman Method as a foundation of our work, but also many other flexible approaches to helping couples.
We specialise in online therapy for anyone away from the area using Remote Therapy (Video Link or sometimes called Online therapy) to save the time and costs of travelling to the clinic. This also helps reduce the general Carbon Footprint created in travelling. In the past, we have worked successfully with couples from all around the UK and Worldwide and the standard and success of the therapy is the same as if face-to-face.
This can help with couples not having to arrange so much childcare, and it can sometimes feel easier in the comfort of your own home. It saves time and travel costs, and the therapy you receive is the same as if it was face to face. If you’re unsure what is best for you, please contact us to discuss this. We help you set it up, and you don’t have to be an IT expert and there’s nothing to download, as long as you have a computer or a smartphone, we send you a link to click to start the session.
Over the last few months, we have been working remotely with people around the UK, at London, Dorset, Scotland, Kent, London, Ireland, Cornwall, County Durham, Bristol, Bournemouth, Brighton, Isle of Wight, Norfolk, and Portsmouth and many in the Hampshire area.
Worldwide we are working with people internationally based in Italy, Spain, Singapore, Sweden, Saudi Arabia, Portugal, Russia, Thailand, Iraq, Malta and Germany. The affair recovery therapy is very effective via Zoom or Skype.
We also offer a selection of Face-to-Face Counselling appointments for those who can attend our clinic in Hythe, Hampshire. This is ideal if you live in the area and can easily travel to the clinic.
We believe love is an action word, so love needs to be worked at and it’s a mistake to sit back and wait for it to happen! Our counselling follows this philosophy. What is Love?
And why are we different?
Couple counselling can sometimes be that a counsellor sits back and ‘allows’ you to talk and find your own solutions. This approach can work with individuals, but often couples using this approach find they just end up arguing their way through the session, and couples instead need an approach which gives some guidance on how to repair a broken relationship. We not only offer a coaching approach which will give you tools to help with this, but we base much of our work on the world renowned Gottman Method. The Gottman’s are a married couple of Psychologists and therapists who have studied relationships for over 40 years, so their work is evidenced based. We also use training and the approaches from some of the best know and proven therapists including Sue Johnson’s EFT Relationship Therapy, so our therapy is a pro-active approach, giving you different things to try in the relationship, rather than just talking about it. This means the structure of our relationship counselling/coaching has been proven to work successfully (Gottman Research) and includes giving you new skills and understanding to make your relationship the best it can be, and perhaps is very different in approach to Relate counselling.
We use a variety of counselling and coaching approaches and techniques to help you work through your relationship problems. Techniques include: open discussions, conflict management and analysing negative patterns of behaviour, looking at how your attachment systems lay a part in the relationship. Many couples are apprehensive if they haven’t been in therapy before, but it’s not about blames or attack, it’s about understanding and all working together to help the relationship repair and flourish.
Some of the issues a couple bring to therapy might be; Infidelity, an affair has taken place, sex (or lack of it) has become an issue, a new baby has impacted on the relationship, or it may be time has eroded away the good romantic feelings and it’s a struggle to get them back. What ever the reasons, the counselling room is a place where you are not judged, and is not a place where one partner is seen as right and the other as wrong, but more a confidential space where you can both explore how to make the relationship stronger and better. Another area of work is helping older couples who are moving into the last trimester of their life and how this impacts on their relationship.
We also work with any aspect of relationships or broken relationships. This might be as a couple but often can be individual affected by some type of relationship. This might be;
You are a victim of a relationship scam via the internet.
You are grieving a loss of a relationship (through death or an ending of a relationship.)
You see a destructive pattern in the relationships you have and want to explore this.
Addiction to porn is destroying a relationship.
You are trying to recover from infidelity.
You have relationship issues with your children/parents or work colleagues.
You’ve never had a serious relationship and want to explore the angst around this.
Sex is an issue in the relationship or individually, and Psycho-sexual therapy is needed.
You are finding yourself attracted to a person who isn’t your partner, and you want to explore this.
“Let’s not forget it’s you and me vs. problem. Not you vs. me” -anon
“You can’t just give up on someone just because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They’re great because both people care about the other person to find a way to make it work.” -Unknown
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Specific Issue Couples Coaching/Counselling
These sessions are for couples who have a very successful and positive relationship, but who might have one issue they want to discuss/resolve. This might be about finances/money, or in-laws or children etc. The sessions focus just on the issue and not the relationship as a whole. Not all couples or issues are suitable for this coaching, so please make contact and we can check this out for you. The sessions last for about 50-60 mins and are the standard fee.
We offer Supervision for Counsellors working with Couples
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Memberships of main recognised and approved Associations
THE GOTTMAN INSTITUTE: A RESEARCH-BASED APPROACH TO STRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS
Tom and Tina are fully Accredited members of The National Counselling Society (now the NCPS) The society features here in a news item.