Sex in Your Relationship

Sex can often be a difficult subject for a couple to discuss. It may not be quite right for one or both of you, but how do you talk about this without it feeling awkward, causing conflict, or embarrassment and anxiety? Sometimes the subject is easier to just leave, and the problem worsens. At the Relationship Centre we are experienced in helping you to bring this subject into the therapy, and do so in a sensitive and positive way for you individually, and to the benefit of the relationship. Research shows this is such an important part of relationships. A healthy sex life between couples has a 15-20% part to play in energising the relationship and reinforcing the feelings of desire (McCarthy 2015)

There are many myths around sex in relationships;

Good sex is about amazing orgasms
If the relationship is good, sex will be good.
If sex is bad it means the relationship is poor.
If the couple starts communicating, are more intimate, then sex will improve.
The way to gauge good sex is the orgasms had by both, the amount of times sex happens, and your partner is initiating sex.
That men see sex as love and woman want sex when feeling loved (although this is sometimes true)

Sex is a multifaceted and complex process, and stress, the environment, tiredness, illness, past trauma and sexual dysfunction can all effect sexual desire and performance. We help you explore all this with compassion, so you can jointly overcome issues and improve the sexual side of your relationship.

Much of this is carried out with both of you together, but there may be times when you both have an individual session to enhance the therapy.