Building a Bridge
The other day I asking asking my wife what would she like to do at the weekend. Afterwards it made me think about how many questions we actually ask each other.
What’s for dinner?
Why did you say that?
Who is going to load the dishwasher?
Did you remember to send that email?
And then it reminded me of something I read many months ago. What about asking your partner this question? - “What can I do today to make you feel more loved?” - By asking this one simple question daily, a couple can start to really bond, even when things have been tough. By asking our partner this question, we start to learn what for them at that time in their life would really make them feel loved and accepted. It gives us the power to really do something for them. And when they ask us the same question, we really have to think about what would make us feel loved. Try doing this for a week and see what happens in your relationship.
Of course any exercise like this can be abused. Answering the question by saying, “give me a million pounds” or “agree to do all the childcare and housework for the next six months” will not enhance the relationship!
But answering in a positive loving way can build stronger bridges between you.