The place for couples…..
Specialist Counselling & Psychotherapy for Couples who want a better Relationship
Harley Street London
Couple, or relationship counselling (once termed marriage counselling or marriage guidance) is a specialist form of counselling for 2 people together in the same room. This is often for couples in a romantic relationship, such as husband and wife or partners, but can also be used for relationships such as parent and child, siblings, or even family members.
Couple counselling can be used in the following situations;
There are obviously other reasons why a couple would seek a counsellor to help them through a difficult time, the important thing is to look at working with a professional to resolve the issues as soon as possible.
Couple counselling isn’t about blame, it isn’t about one partner being wrong and the other right, and research has shown many men feel they are going to be put on the spot by the counsellor and will have to defend themselves, and again this is not the case.
The counsellor will be the facilitator to help the couple step back from what is not working in the relationship, understand their partner and the relationship dynamics, as well as themselves, and look at ways to improve the relationship so it becomes a healthier, flourishing, and a positive thing for both parties.
Although a counselling approach is the basis of good support for a couple and a relationship, once some of the issues have been talked through, there is a need for a positive way forward, and often a couple will ask, “so what do we do?”
This is where a coaching approach helps, where as a counsellor may not suggest things you can try, a coach can, so tasks, goals and trying different approaches can be discussed. In this way both the counselling and coaching approach works best, so you can tell your story, but the counsellor/coach can suggest ways forward to start making changes.
We also work with individuals who have been affected by a broken relationship, difficult relationships with parents or children, someone who is struggling being single, or someone who is experiencing painful memories from a past poor relationship.
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The Relationship Centre
Amara Clinic, Hythe, Hampshire.
Harley Street, London
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." — Mingon McLaughlin
What is an on-line affair?
Cheating online – also referred to as an online affair or Internet infidelity – is any behaviour conducted through any digital communication device (e.g. phone, tablet, laptop) that someone believes betrays their relationship.
But different people have different values over this. Is just talking on-line OK? What constitutes an affair?
The counselling will explore this with a couple to help them move beyond this and rebuild their relationship.
Men in Couple Counselling.
Men are often resistant to coming into relationship counselling. The reasons can be many, but generally men find the thought of counselling as a negative thing, whereas a woman sees it as positive, and a chance to improve the relationship. Men sometimes are not comfortable in opening up about their feelings or vulnerabilities and worry about this. Of course most find the counselling much more positive than they imagined and are glad they attended the counselling once they start.
Affair Recovery Counselling.
This therapy is the first step after an affair. Drawn from the research and knowledge of Esther Perel, the Gottmans, Shirely Glass and Janis Abrahams, this counselling explores the affair directly, what it means to the relationship, and discovers whether the couple can move from this into couple counselling to build a new relationship…..read more
The relationship centre uses a variety of approaches and techniques to help you work through your relationship problems. Techniques include: open discussions, conflict management and analysing negative patterns of behaviour
Many couples are apprehensive if they have never attended a couples counselling ………read more
The Relationship Centre is for any couple who are looking for a better relationship, whether it’s to improve on a good relationship to make it a wonderful one, or if it’s a relationship in crisis that needs help. We are based in Harley Street, central London, and on the edge of the New Forest in Hampshire. We see clients from London, Southampton, Winchester, Lymington and other areas. The centre is a Hub for not just Psychotherapy, but also research, training and couple counselling, supervision and relationship coaching.Most people think of couple counselling as being a last resort when things are really bad, and crisis point has been reached. This doesn’t have to be the case. Many relationships benefit in a big way by using couple counselling as a way of sorting out minor issues in the relationship, before they grow into resentment and arguments. Sometimes couple counselling can be used to help a relationship end in a positive way, so any anger or resentment is left in the counselling room, and not taken into their new life as separate people.
Why are we different?
Couple counselling can often be based on a ‘person-centred’ approach which means the counsellor sits back and ‘allows’ you to find your own solutions. This approach can work with individuals, but often couples using this approach find they just end up arguing their way through the session, and couples instead need an approach which gives some guidance on how to repair a broken relationship. We use not only a coaching approach which will give you tools to help with this, but we base much of our work on the Gottmans. The Gottmans are a married couple of Psychologists and therapists who have studied relationships for over 40 years, so their work is evidenced based. This means the structure of our relationship counselling has been proven to work successfully and will include approaches that give you new skills and understanding to make your relationship the best it can be.
Single and Lonely?
Although not relationship counselling with two people, this therapy helps someone come to terms around a lost relationship, either one that has ended, or one that has never happened. It looks at the loss, the loneliness and the implications in society of being in a non-relationship.
Gradually through the therapy, these issues are worked through and a new way of feeling about yourself and your current circumstances can be discovered.
Counselling for over 60’s
Relationships play a critical role in dealing with the pressures of old age, but can fracture if they are not nurtured. Illness, retirement and financial burdens, as well as worries about getting older or even death, can all impact on this new phase of the relationship.
This relationship counselling is designed to work with the over 60’s and the special circumstances of their life and relationship.
“You cant just give up on someone just because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They’re great because both people care about the other person to find a way to make it work.” -Unknown
…it’s strange as I look back and remember how we were when we first came and saw you. I suppose at the time I thought there was no hope……..
….and we have just booked a second honeymoon in Paris!…
…thank you from both of us..
More information; The Relationship Centre uses a number of therapeutic models in the work with couples. This will include general counselling, Mindfulness, CBT, Family Systems, Gestalt Counselling and Narrative Therapy. Much of the work is based on the Gottman Institute and their research on what makes a successful relationship. The Gottman’s are seen as leading experts in their research and their training around relationships, and much of their training forms the basis of the Relationship Centre’s approach.
The counselling can look at any issue in the relationship, including affairs, anxieties, couple dynamics, needs and communication skills. For a relationship counsellor or couple counsellor, please contact us with any questions or information requests.
“Lets not forget it’s you and me vs. problem. Not you vs. me” -anon